Fado Jewelry Wedding .
I'd like your opinions on this - I'm thinking of giving (as bridesmaid's
gifts), matching earrings and necklaces for them to wear at the wedding.
However, I don't want to come off as a Bridezilla, ordering them to MATCH!!!
or else! I really don't care what they wear as jewelry, I just thought this
was a pretty good gift idea. They'd be simple, and probably in topaz or
something, orangey, whatever. Their dresses are "bone", kind of an
off-off-beige, so I could go with practically any color. I've been playing
with flower sites on the web, and orange-peach lilies go wonderfully with
the color (I have a pair of the shoes here, I have the feeling a shoe will
accompany me on many of my shopping expeditions for flowers, etc.....)
Anyway, what's your opinion? Would giving them matching jewelry be going
to far on the matching thing???
Giving matching jewelry as attendants' gifts sends the message: "I
expect you to wear this with your wedding outfits and MATCH."
There's nothing wrong with that. It's a common reason for brides to give
jewelry to their attendants. I personally don't love the "perfectly
matched" look, but if you feel better with an exact match, paying for
the jewelry is certainly nicer than expecting attendants to buy their
own. Unless this jewelry is also very much in line with your attendants'
personal tastes, they'll probably never wear it again, so it becomes
more a convenience and keepsake than a truly useful gift. But that's
fine with a lot of people! You don't have to feel bad about doing it
that way, unless this would be so totally unlike how you normally give
gifts that you feel like you're turning into someone else.
If the sense of "making" them wear matching jewelry truly bothers you,
choose an affordable store with a large selection (or a good mall), and
get different coordinating sets that are a closer fit with each
attendant's personal tastes. There should be a number of variations
available with topaz, a gold chain, and maybe a pearl or two. They'll
still all wear it with their bridesmaids' dresses, but there's a greater
sense that the gift was chosen for each person individually, and less of
a matchy-matchy look. Take a list and try to do this all in one big trip
to Rosedale or something -- while it's a nice touch, it shouldn't be
allowed to turn into a source of stress.